I read a post on datingish asking if fate was real because some dude noticed his girlfriend and him had contact on the same dates as two people in a movie (I think it was called “the boathouse”, though I’ve never seen it).
Right now you may be breathing in an atom of oxygen that exactly one year ago was on the exact opposite side of the planet.
But you’d never notice. And if you did you probably wouldn’t care because it’s not sexy.
Coincidences are extremely likely to occur all the time, and occur more frequently with people because we create more variables, like systems of times, dates, other units of measurements, traditions, names, astrological signs and blah blah blah. And they’re more noticeable with people because we care about these things. We think marriages and deaths and birthdays are much more important than a well timed atom floating around the planet.
And we act surprised when these things coincide like it means something special.
Let me ask you, what exactly do you suppose happened? The universe conspired to make you meet someone on dates in the calendar that non-existent people in a different year in a fictional universe met? Or maybe that the universe made that writer write down those dates?
Or what, god did it?
The only kind of fate that exists is causality. Shit happens for a reason, but not necessarily a good reason. Good things happen for the same reason bad things happen, the same universal force of gravitation that keeps your car on the road so you don’t crash into a tree and kill yourself is going to make someone slip, crack their head on their bathroom floor and end up paralyzed for life.
Maybe the only meaning in that is the fact that one of those thing cannot happen without the other. Or more accurately, one cannot be possible without the other also being possible.
But to ask if two things coinciding is a coincidence is just silly.